a psychic price

 

 

 

 

 

One of the problems with being a people pleaser is that you are in a constant state of low grade dishonesty.

Afraid to tell your truth -- often completely out-of-touch with what your truth even is -- every interaction is based on a reflexive fear of any kind of conflict whatsoever.

We may tell ourselves we're nice, or that we mean well, but the truth is often that we are simply afraid to play it any differently. In fact for some of us, we actually lose the ability to. 

(It's not courtesy, tact or diplomacy if you're afraid to be clear. Or, conversely, if you have to work yourself up into a hysterical rage to finally be honest, and then spend the next 24 hours apologizing and passive/aggressively asking everyone if you're a terrible person, just so they can reassure you that you're not, you are equally trapped in fear.)

As a people pleaser, at the end of the day I have no integrity. 

And there is, for lack of a better word, a psychic price one pays for that.

 

Mr. SponsorPants

 

 

 

 

 

Comments

[Chrissy M.]

Why is it at times when something is totally eating my lunch I then get to see a post like this? Being inside my head all day with maybe I should do this or not do that to try and keep others from getting upset or not liking me (there it is). All the way to the point of putting off the things that I need to do to grow and keep walking this path in sobriety. Talk about a pychic price. Thank you for your honesty. To to answer the question above, its just Dude (H.P.) going..you didnt hear me before, let me talk a little louder.

[NewMadge]

Great post. I love how you put this. Such an important topic. You NAILED it.