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June 11, 2012


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;') I was told to put it in a wheel barrow and bring it to a meeting. Now i wonder if my sponsor thought my ass was too big for a bag.


Out in NV I heard it said, duck tape it on and bring it to a meeting, we'll help you keep it on till you find a God of your own who can do the job.


Thanks for the smile. And the bag... just in case, you know.


I was always told; "The only time your ass falls off is when you are sitting on it."

Do the steps the best you can everyday and generally the Ass wont fall off ;-)


I was told that too and it still gives the the same visual and a little chuckle.

dAAve u

Where you at?

Tami Murray

Yeah where you at? :)


If it falls off put it in a bags and bring it with you to a meeting...they told me that too. Also, they said I should go to meetings until I 'want to go to meetings.' If you are looking for help check out the New Life House website http://www.newlifehouse.com


Hey there Mr. Sponsorpants! I read your blog obsessively and just wanted to check on you! Your blog is wonderful and a big help to me and many other alcoholics in my area. Thanks for all you do and for being a part of our recovery!!


See what happens when you start a blog? People start to depend on you, to like you, to worry about you. You know how our minds work -- straight to the worst possible scenario. Hope all is well in your world.


You are missed. Hope you are well.


God be with you. Thank you.


God, grant us the serenity to accept the things we cannot change, courage to change the things we can and wisdom to know the difference.


~sigh~ I miss you Mr. SP
I hope you are well.


I hope you are enjoying your vacation.


Where are u!??!?? We miss you Mr. Sponsor pants!!!

zombie flash game

Yeah where you at? :)


Gosh, wish I had something pithy to say, but I just want to know that you're ok, Mr. Sponsorpants. And that I care.

atomic momma

Checking in to see if you are okay Mr. Sponsorpants. We miss you out here and hope you are okay.

Debbie G

LOL. My a$$ was falling off today and I thought of you. Missing you and wishing you well in whatever adventures the universe is throwing your way.


Dear Mr SP, i'm checking every day to hear from you, and am worried and wanted you to know how important you have become to me, and how real, even if cyber-y
please let those of us that follow you know how you are, even if you're not good
you have helped me alot, would love to return the favour
a London frend x


You came to mind today. Wishing you the joy of the day and sending blessings your way!


Hope you are well Mr SP! Miss your thoughts!


Hope you're alright Mr SP, and that you'll be able to come back soon.


I sure do wish you would check in. I am really worried about you.


I offered up a prayer today that you be surrounded with blessings. Whatever you need....Please God, my lips to your ears.


yep, I miss you too. Prayers up for ya. Be well Mr. SP.


you know, i've been missing you since mid-june, and because I am a drunk I procrastinate like crazy..even sober, tho i am getting better, But you are important, and I have been thinking about you and not sending that thought to you. And if I haven't i bet there are a lot of people that havent. and here's the thing...you have established a relationship with a lot of people who care about you. And you don't have to keep writing this blog, we'll all live. but i'm not sure we'll all live comfortably if we don't even know if you're ok. So checking in would be the next right thing to do...


sending love your way and to all your readers

dAAve u

Just thinkin' of you.


Just another admirer of yours feeling a little empty without your presence here. You do so much good, and we miss you and wish you well.


I miss you too. Hope all is well and you'll be posting again soon.


That's a funny one for those of us cross addicted and in OA. Some wish their asses would fall off (distateful, sorry.) :)


Does anyone have any way to be in touch and find out if Mr SP is alive and well?

atomic momma

Just a note to let you know I am thinking of you and praying for you Mr. Sponsorpants. I miss you.

Jeri  Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ

It appears that two months have passed with no posting. No mention of vacation, sickness,or I don't want to do this anymore. If we knew his name we could check the obituaries, but alas we cannot. In AA we are taught responsibility, accountability and keeping commitments...If not we are to say that our commitment is at an end. As an alcoholic myself, I have a tendency to think the worst, that is just how I'm wired. I have really enjoyed Mr. SP's commentaries and will miss his wit. Hope to run into some of you as we drudge the road of happy destiny.


Dear Mr. Sponsorpants,
I sincerely hope that you and yours are okay, and that this hiatus is the result of so many good things coming your way, that you couldn't keep up with this anymore. Of course, we would love to hear from you when you have the time and where-with-all. Please know that you are missed. For every one of us who writes, there are many more who don't. Your web presence has been delightful and is missed.

With deep appreciation,
And hoping that your ass hasn't fallen off,


^ Yeah, what Lulu said. Miss your posts, I hope all is well. (First time commenter. Yes, you meant *that* much.)


Yesterday I had the honor of speaking at a conference. I took you with me Mr. SP. I finished my talk with one of your posts. Your blog has contributed so much to my recovery, I couldn't imagine not taking you with me. I'm struggling with anger.....wondering why you didn't give a trusted friend your password and link to this site in case something ever happened to you. I'm struggling with acceptance. Accepting that in Gods world, everything is exactly how it's supposed to be and that maybe I don't need to know where you are....but just need to pass along the incredible gifts you have given to me. I love you Mr. SP.


Just another post to say that I've been thinking of you, I hope you're okay, I miss your posts and I am sending all good wishes to you.


The more time passes, the more scared I am that something dreadful has happened.

Wherever you are, thoughts of love Mr. SP. Godspeed.


I try to think happy thoughts. I'm thinking that the man has gotten busy and can't find the time. I really don't feel that this is the last post we will 22 months ago, ever see from Mr S. I started reading this blog when I first got sober. This has helped me more that I can really say. Thank for being there when I needed you.


Add me to those who miss the posts.

Whatever the story is (and we all have our own), we can be grateful for the humor and wisdom Mr. SP has shared with us.

All any of us has is today. And nobody ever promised all the mysteries of the universe would be revealed.

Love from here.


For this alcoholic the following sucks:
missing a dear friend
not knowing
an empty chair in the room

So what can I do?
Pray with all my heart and never stop loving a Brother that could never know how much he has helped me get and stay sober.

No matter where you are Mr. SP, I love you and miss you.


Mr. SponsorPants, I can see that a whole lot of us wonder what in the world happened to you. You are such a great writer, and you have helped me so much in my 6 months with Al-Anon. We hope some day you will find your way back. Saying a prayer for you right now.


Just checking back. I love the above analogy of the empty chair at a meeting- it's very disarming when someone just disappears and we are left to wonder why, especially those of us who took our first sober steps with the help of Mr. SP.

I suppose it's another lesson learned from Mr. SP. Yes, you each are important, you matter, and yes, someone would miss you if you went away without a word.

So thank you Mr. SP for helping all those you have helped, for speaking your truth, though it was often hard for many of us to hear, we needed to hear it.

"You may never have proof of your importance but you are more important than you think. There are always those who couldn’t do without you. The rub is that you don’t always know who." ~ Robert Fulghum

Goodnight and goodluck.


I am checking back (though not quite as frequently). One of these days I may find a new post. I don't know where our friend is, but I know that he helped me a great deal. I hope he reads this.

Maybe our paths will cross as we trudge this road of happy destiny! God Bless you!

atomic momma

Missing you so much Mr. Sponsorpants. Praying that you are well, in good health.


I just keep checking back.....


I keep hoping there is somebody out there who knows who he is in real life (it's not hard to figure out the location based on some of his posts) and tell us what is up with him. I hope and pray all is well......


I keep coming back...


I'm back... Checking in again. This is driving me crazy.

To all who keep returning here... What's your favorite or most meaningful post here on Mr. Sponsorpants, & why?


My favorite posts were ones in which he talked about his experience - getting angry, feeling prideful or exasperated, and then realizing that he was the problem and that meant there was a solution.

I have about the same amount of time as Mr. SP and the longer I stay sober, the more I realize how little I know.

I also appreciated so, so, so much how active he was in the program. I was active for many years and now have a chronic illness. When I am doing well, I go to meetings, chair, do whatever I can. When I am not, I spend days, weeks, and months in bed. I miss being useful and connecting with people in real life as much as I used to.

Reading his posts allowed me to live vicariously in a part of the program I am not able to do right now.

I would tell anyone reading this to do as much as you can- go to meetings two or three times a day if you can (like I did for the first few years), wash cups, give people rides, set up chairs, make coffee, be a trusted servant, whatever you can, because you never know when you might not be able to.



love this posting, it really puts things into perspective when thinking about dating in early sobriety. I have reread it many many times.

I also love the posts when he shows that hes not a guru.

be well all

Kim J.

Mr Sponsorpants has been such a huge part of my recovery, a place I could and still do come, when picking up the phone seems way too hard. My favorite post is a post on fear from October 6, 2008. I found this recently and use it everyday now to keep fear at bay.


Has anyone emailed him??


I did email him...no response....


Wow...it's sad. and scary. Nobody knows his real name?


I have so many favorites.....but if I had to narrow it down to one, its probably "Share your Scars". I pass that one on most frequently. I still come back, to read through the archives because I tend to see posts with new eyes each time I read them. Mr SP's blog has shaped my recovery, shaped the kind of AA member I am,the sponsee and sponsor I am, the friend, wife, mother, daughter and sister I am. I will be forever grateful and put my gratitude into action by passing on his wonderful gifts.


So sad he's not updating us. I really really hope nothing terrible happened. :(

recovering jezebel

Dear John, please don't be dead or drunk, or if you're the latter, please let one of us take you to a meeting? We love you. Signed, an Al-Anon You Helped TREMENDOUSLY.


I really really miss you Mr. Sponsorpants :(


The fact that I have been checking back every day must mean that I need my Mr Sponsorpants. Where have you gone?

badger lee

Here's what I found out from a sober blogger who had limited email contact with Mr. Sponsorpants: That he is extremely private and protective of his identity and even said blogger never knew his "real" identity. Also, that Mr. S. had some health issues, some of them weight-related. So I don't know. But I felt I needed to share the little I found out.


Badger! Thank you so much for the info. I could just hug you!

Bless his heart, my payers have his name on them.

Jacquie R

I am missing your view of sobriety.You have made me laugh and have given me hope,so I will pray for you and I hope you are healthy.Looking forward to reading your blog soon.
A grateful Al-anon member.


Really wish you would check in. We miss you. Praying all is well in your corner of the world.


I keep checking back as well. When I do, I reread some posts. It seems to take on different and new meaning the more I travel this journey. Peace to all!

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