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April 18, 2011


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Jeri  Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ

My heart breaks for you. I know exactly what you are feeling. I have a son who after a divorce moved home. Being an alcoholic myself, I thought that being an example of what AA and recovery was, would be a motivator for him to say "I want what you have mom." WRONG! All that is left for me to do is pray for him, and his family (re-married). Alcoholism is a hideous disease. We will continue to pray at every meeting for the alcoholic who still suffers.

Belle in the upper midwest

Well put, Mr. SP.

To the folks who wrote this: If you go to Al-Anon, please go long enough for it to work in your life.

It's hard to watch your children grow up and make choices that you wouldn't make, or that you feel guilty about or responsible for.

But your daughter is a Child of God, and He has a plan for her, just like He does for you. The hard thing is lovingly letting your daughter experience the consequences of her actions.

How long does it take? As long as it takes. Is there pain involved? Yup. Does it end happily? Not always. Is it worth doing? Absolutely. I wish you well.


Good post, Mr. SP. I would suggest to anyone who is going through the situation described here, to read the Al-Anon pamphlet The Merry Go Round of Denial. It really describes enabling and the role that family members play in helping keep the alcoholic in the disease.


I just started clicking around to various recovery blogs (I'm a food blogger) because my 20 year old daughter is in rehab ( and my husband is 17 years sober). I'm so glad to have found your blog - I like your voice. I am an Al-Anon beginner and recently received the pamphlet Syd mentioned in the previous comment. It's very helpful.
Keep up the great work Mr. SP. I look forward to reading along.

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