You can't reason with crazy -- but sometimes you need to try a little bit, just so you can feel clean about the exchange.
Some people are determined to be angry or unhappy -- and determined to spray it all over anyone standing in front of them. They truly are my great spiritual teachers, in that they compel me to practice all of the things it's easy to do with the people I love, and must work (hard) to be graceful at doing with the people who bug the shit out of me who challenge me: Feel compassion, be patient, forgive, tolerate, understand, love...
When someone -- especially an alcoholic -- says "No, no, it's not about this at all..." they might actually be saying that this is exactly what it's about -- but they don't know how to say that, or they don't want to be held accountable. (And I am embarrassed to report that I have, at times in my recovery, very much been that alcoholic).
Alcoholics who complain about a particular something and claim they want things to be different (being single, being broke all the time, being bad at this or that) are kidding themselves -- their lives are exactly how they want them to be. This is evidenced by the entrenched (if sometimes unconscious) unwillingness to do anything differently (consistently) so that they get the result they supposedly desire. Wishing for a different result without being willing to change your process is as common as dirt. Asking your Higher Power to help you be willing to do a different process so that you can achieve a different result is very much a part of the heart of Steps 6 and 7.
If you are in a situation where obviously praying might not be the best move, take out your cell phone and "call" God -- you might be surprised how powerful and comforting this bit of charade can be.
It takes as long as it takes.