An anonymous comment, dated February 15th, on my posting "Is AA A Cult?" has given me food for thought for the past week or so since I read it.
Here it is, copy/pasted in its entirety:
Whatever happened to the Traditions, Mr. Sponsorpants? Eleven protects us all, and Twelve states that anonymity is the, "spiritual foundation." Those words are not chosen lightly. This entire site turns my stomach and gives me the hee-bee-geebies. Thank Heaven this fellowship is self-correcting, but I have to shake my head at this entire endeavour of YOURS, MR. SPONSORPANTS. People might start to think you speak for the Program. uh.... Please, pray on it, and consider taking it down, and keep it in the rooms. "What you hear here and whom you see here, let it stay here when you leave here!!!" I sincerely feel this site violates the spirit of our sacred fellowship.
I've had enough turmoil lately -- and enough fatigue from working some crazy-ass long hours at work now -- that I needed to really take some time before I spoke to this comment -- but I knew I would, since it raises a larger and important question about sobriety, anonymity and the internet.
In thinking about this, and the blog in general (as I close in on almost three years of regular blogging on AA and sobriety), I can see where someone might be very troubled by what I've done here. (And I am going to limit this to what I've done -- what others have, are, or will do is not something I have control over. AA has taught me to try to take responsibility for my side of the street, and although I do it imperfectly, I can say that I do consistently try to do it.)
Out of a combination of laziness and a desire not to be repetitive I do not always state, with every entry in which I discuss other AA's in any way -- or anyone else, for that matter -- that, to preserve anonymity, while everything I write here is, to the best of my ability, 100% true, it is not 100% factual.
That is, I work hard to be true to the spirit of a conversation or an exchange or a person or a share or whatever, without giving identifying facts which would break anonymity. I know I've mentioned before that, to my credit (and the occasional sponsee's chagrin) I have an excellent auditory memory -- that is, I remember what I hear very well. Thus when I talk about conversations, etc., I believe I am telling the truth -- my quotes are fairly accurate, given a margin for human error. I may not get something word-pefect, but I fairly provide context and capture meaning.
But what I write about others is purposely, to preserve anonymity, not factual. That is, if I say I had a conversation with someone (a sponsee, a friend, a co-worker) it might actually (for example) have been two people, blended into one, to convey a point or paint a picture. Or specific descriptives about someone are not at all factual, but are in fact altered to keep the person anonymous -- though I still try to convey to the reader the sense of a person or situation's dynamic. (A crude example of that -- and one I've not used in any story which is why I use it here -- is that I might describe someone who had terrible, terrifying table manners as a person who spoke too loudly, and spit a bit when they spoke, over dinner -- you get the sense of a potentially uncomfortable social dynamic over a meal, but the facts have been changed to preserve anonymity.) I always in some way blur or omit gender, age, time sober, location, etc. (at the cost of some clumsy syntax, but that's the price required to do that.)
If that hasn't been said as often as it should, or been made clear when I've tried to address it, I'll link this entry to the "Who Are You, Mr. SponsorPants?" heading on the right of the site, and hopefully that will feature the information more prominently for anyone who has questions or concerns. I think it a reasonable assumption that a blog reader, if curious about authorship and/or content, clicks around a little bit.
As for people thinking I speak for AA, I feel like my conscience is pretty clear on that front. I've repeated the fact that I do not -- and that in fact no one does -- speak for AA in any way, shape or form on any entry where it is germane to the point(s) being made.
The whole Mr. SponsorPants blog started as an act of service born of my sincere prayer for help. (And one is always in danger, when thinking that they're acting on an answer to a prayer, of being at the least foolish and at the most dangerous, I think that's important to acknowledge too.) As with any act of service I have done in sobriety, my ego has occasionally wormed its way in. At the same time, God gave us gifts to use, and if we're using them in a sincere effort to be of service then using them -- and enjoying using them -- is the right thing to be doing (the "proper use of the will" as the book "Alcoholics Anonymous" says).
My first sponsor had a beautiful singing voice. He was, in fact, a professional singer. Early in my sobriety I told him I was worried that I was "performing" when I shared. That I was "trying" to be funny. He asked me if I thought of things to say before I shared, and I truthfully answered 'not very much.' He asked me if I was trying to be funny on purpose, or it sometimes just came out that way, but I was also just trying to be honest. I said, again truthfully, that I wasn't entirely sure, but it mostly just came out that way. Then he asked me if he should purposely sing off-key when we sang "Happy Birthday" to someone taking a cake for a sober anniversary. Caught off guard by the question I'm sure I said something like 'of course not!' He said that if he was trying to sing louder than everyone to show off, then that was ego, but if he was singing loudly to help the group's song then that was service -- that he was using the gifts God gave him in service to the meeting. He put it better than I am now, but the spirit of that idea has always helped me in sorting out using our abilities for service or for ego. I crack wise when I write to entertain myself more than anything else (also it's just the way my mind works) -- and sometimes it helps people take information in -- or just brighten a day, for God's sake. (And if I'm occasionally taken too literally rather than in the spirit of fun which is intended... well, half on me for not being clear, and half on the literal taker for having a stick up their ass losing their sense of fun.) So although sometimes my ego has stepped in, on the whole I think "the spirit of our sacred fellowship" is as much about service and carrying the message as it is anything else.
And while I do not advocate in any way a change to the Traditions or the customs and principles which the fellowship of AA has developed over time and which serve us so well, in the 21st Century how people find and take in information has most definitely changed.
As I understand my AA history (and I have absolutely no doubt that someone will gently correct me if I am mistaken on this) the motivation for writing the book "Alcoholics Anonymous" was two-fold: First, to accurately record and present AA's 12 suggested Steps and plan for recovery to anyone who might need it, and second, to reach people who might not find their way into an AA meeting -- either from not having one near them or from a fear of being seen at one or whatever. Also, the personal stories in the back of the Big Book (AA's nickname for the book "Alcoholics Anonymous") were so that people could "hear" other people talk about their alcoholism and recovery and possibly identify.
I think virtually any writing about AA and sobriety on the internet has the opportunity to do those same things: Accurately quote and present AA's plan for recovery, and share personal experiences about drinking, practicing AA's principles, and living sober, for others to identify with. (And as anyone with some sober miles under their belt will tell you, the need to identify with other sober AA's -- and be comforted and inspired by them -- does not vanish over time.)
So hopefully this blog can be a part of that larger purpose. While I want to take personal responsibility for anything here that is problematic regarding AA's traditions, etc., I also want to laud the great extended spiritual family of recovering bloggers -- in every 12 Step fellowship -- who share their experience and wisdom in this fashion -- whether it's every day or only occasionally. If someone Googles anything 12 Step related they will find a lot of help out there now -- and that's a moving and wonderful thing.
Again I am certain that someone will be glad to correct me if I am greatly mistaken, but I think that carrying the Traditions forward and applying their spirit to a new and ever-changing world of how people find and take in information is not the same thing as violating them.
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Hopefully this post has been more demonstrative than defensive -- I gave the comment, the questions it raised for me, and this writing a lot of thought before I brought it to the table.
It's an interesting point of view the commenter shared, and an interesting connection to Traditions.
It seems to me that if this blog were THE OFFICIAL VOICE & OPINION OF ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS it wouldn't be some anonymous guy's blog, it would be the headline article on aa.org.
Take, for instance, the actor who "behaved badly" on radio today. Amongst his comments were unflattering comments about AA. Our Traditions are reflected in aa.org's SILENCE on the matter. AA as an official entity NEVER DEFENDS ITSELF. Our results speak for themselves: the good, the bad, the ugly. No spokespersons necessary, no drama triangle moves engaged.
I'd like to pass a metaphorical handful of compassion to you, MSP, for this experience which is, in effect, hate mail. Paradoxically, it's probably a sign of (what the world would call "success") to be well known enough to merit hate mail.
Posted by: Jayne Dough | February 25, 2011 at 01:03 AM
I absolutely love the way alcoholics (recovery or not) have a desire to create controversy and drama wherever we can find the opportunity. I include myself in this endeavor.
Keep it up. Your message is clear. And it's YOUR message, not AA's.
Posted by: Dave | February 25, 2011 at 02:45 AM
It was your blog and others, and other online sites that got me into recovery. I don't think I would have made it to a meeting without you and others online.
You, and others help keep me sober. Especially when I can't get to meetings frequently. It is truly like having a real sponsor.
I think it is a valid 12th step activity.
Regarding preservation of anonymity: If I put my mind to it I might be able to work out which time zone you are in, and therefore roughly which area of the USA. I honestly can't think of any way I could even hazard a guess at your identity or location other than that.
You are always very careful about this. It is very difficult. I read other blogs where, after a while, I feel I could identify the writer in real life if I wanted to.
I do hope you don't take the site down. I often refer to a previous post.
Posted by: daisymay | February 25, 2011 at 02:53 AM
MSP, Please don't stop posting your view of our world. We need you and thank you for your work.
Posted by: john | February 25, 2011 at 03:51 AM
However well-intentioned the writer of that comment may have been, I strongly disagree with it. I felt like I struck GOLD when I discovered this blog, and it is one of the few I follow avidly. Heck, one of the down sides to weekends for me is no Mr. S-P those days.
I often share links with friends inside and outside the Fellowship. You do, indeed, have a gift and perform true service in employing it here.
I know people who had a knee-jerk aversion to anything AA based on what they've heard, not what they've experienced, who were ready to give it a try after surfing around your blog. No, you don't speak for AA, but your recovery speaks volumes.
I think you do an admirable job of preserving your own anonymity and that of others you write about in these pages. You put a human face on AA and show that it is a real solution for real people in real situations. You aren't afraid to display your own foibles in the interest of making a point.
Keep up the good work. PLEASE.
Posted by: Lexie | February 25, 2011 at 04:02 AM
First off, please don’t take what this person says personally. Everyone has the freedom either to read or not to. If someone should find something
offensive…hello…don’t read it….end of story….
Seems to me someone decided to judge. AA says to try looking in the mirror and judging yourself first. They might learn something!! Putting Down the Magnifying Glass and picking up the Mirror helps. Just sayin’.
Plus also:
Foreword to fourth edition ...
[While our literature has preserved the integrity of the A.A. message, sweeping changes in society as a whole are reflected in new customs and practices within the Fellowship. Taking advantage of technological advances, for example, A.A. members with computers can participate in meetings online, sharing with fellow alcoholics across the country or around the world. In any meeting, anywhere, A.A.’s share experience, strength, and hope with each other, in order to stay sober and help other alcoholics. Modem-to-modem or face-to-face, A.A.’s speak the language of the heart in all its power and simplicity.]
Posted by: Jeri Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ | February 25, 2011 at 05:07 AM
I found your blog when I searched online for the phrase, "the road gets narrower." I asked several members in my home group their interpretation of this phrase and still couldn't quite wrap my arms around it. Your site was listed in my search. Once I was on the site, I clicked through some of your posts and got a lot out of reading your perspective on things AA. I have been an avid reader since then.
I look forward to reading your posts and others' comments each weekday. In no way have I felt you were speaking for all of AA, as I feel you have successfully couched your writing with "... my experience is...". In my opinion, that is what we all do when we speak in a meeting. And this is a large piece of what keeps me sober one day at a time.
I greatly appreciate your service.
Posted by: Lori | February 25, 2011 at 05:16 AM
First off let me say that I read your blog everyday right after I read my meditations, and more often than not I always read something that makes me smile and helps to set my mood before I leave for work. I realize that you are only trying to help others with your expierience much like my sponser does with me and much like I do with my sponsees. However it has been my experience in a.a. that there will always be one or two people who think they are the a.a. police and try to tell all the others how they should act. I have also learned that roughly 10% of all the people do 90% of all the work. Well I like to believe that you are one of those 10%! While you have others like the person who posted the comment who have nothing better to do than sit around and critisize others. So in my opinion if people like that would get more involved in helping others and less critizing others then maybe this wonderful program could reach more people. I dont know it just kinda bothers me that someone always tries to knock others for trying to help.
Posted by: Jason | February 25, 2011 at 06:03 AM
I fail to see where any Tradition was violated in any way shape or form in thought word or deed
You personify the idea of "attraction not promotion" actually in the tradition in question, the tradition says we identify ourselves by our first name only, and you don't even do that, the 12th tradition states that anonymity is the spiritual foundation of ALL our traditions, so if anonymity is the spiritual foundation of a spiritual program it means it's pretty important, the way that was explained to me was do the work (help others) but don't look for the credit, and you exemplify that perfectly
In Short, Mr Sponsorpants, I believe the technical term is "You rock Mr Sponsorpants, keep doing what you are doing", perhaps tomorrow you can explain to us (and your anonymous 'hater' where to put your name in the "I'm Resentful at" column
Posted by: Lin Baba | February 25, 2011 at 06:40 AM
Hi, there, as with everyone earlier please keep up the good work. You are not billing yourself as the defnitive voice of AA and I agree in the 21st century the way people consume things is very different as well as the way you go about protecting annonimity of the peoples stories that you allude to. I also like the fact that you have published both the original comment and your reply, which obviously made you think about the points in a calm manner, rather than dismiss them out of hand. That for me is the beauty of the fellowship that we are tolerant and accomodating. The person who had the fears re annonimity made me take notice of how i conduct myself outside the meeting. Without sounding sycophantic i also liked your annalogy re service. about singing the loudest or singing to be part of the song. Many a time i have made the mistake as i grow in AA of trying to sing the loudest.
Posted by: Fellowship Toddler | February 25, 2011 at 06:55 AM
To me, this blog is like having coffee after a meeting with an "Elder Statesman" ( by my own scale of defining Elder: 15 yrs or more sober and happy about it ). I get answers to questions I didn't want to ask in front of others (gasp!), and sometimes to questions I didn't realize I had.
I attended a workshop @ our last State (IL) convention that dealt with Traditions & Social Networking. I encourage all to do so! It was enlightening and The Traditions didn't have to be rewritten for the Internet.
Thanks for making my mornings. Especially the days I spit coffee on my screen from laughing outloud! YOU.ROCK.
Posted by: Smiley | February 25, 2011 at 07:51 AM
I had a similar comment. I keep anonymity as tight as possible. And I state that I do not represent Al Anon. The commented has a bone to pick. It is an opinion which each of us is entitled to. You do a great service here for those of us dealing with alcoholism. Keep doing what you are doing,please.
Posted by: Syd | February 25, 2011 at 08:51 AM
Anonymity is preserved online the same way it is in meetings - no names, no identifying details. I don't see a problem. Some of us in recovery can be a little rules-obsessed some times.
Posted by: Dan | February 25, 2011 at 09:33 AM
Like Bill W. said when someone said something he disagreed with.
"That's your opinion, and you're entitled to it."
This guy has quite a job ahead of him if he plans on shutting down opinions and views on the net. KEYWORD: Google...You have a lot of resentful letters to write.
Posted by: David S | February 25, 2011 at 09:41 AM
take what you want and....
Posted by: bob | February 25, 2011 at 09:41 AM
I recommend you to friends in Al-Anon; invariably, I'll hear back from those folks about how helpful, thought-provoking and insightful your posts are, and how much they enjoy you.
When I tell someone about your blog, I do so, knowing that I'm giving them a 12-Step treat.
One post of yours, about which I wrote to you, was the best, (the only, truly) explanation for my childhood pain, and why I had to go through it, that I've heard in 50 years of living.
I'm grateful for your willingness to share yourself with us, warts and all. Your courage in being honest about your own thinking processes, makes me feel more willing to work towards the same honesty myself.
You can make me burst out laughing, over something which I then go on to think about seriously - we love you, Mr SP!
Posted by: TAAAF | February 25, 2011 at 09:44 AM
I am a visitor here. I am not an alcoholic and I do not attend meetings. I do have alcoholics in my life and sometimes the communication isn't as clear for me as I would like. When I discovered this blog, this personal journey, your particular style made things easier for me to understand. I can relate to the way you speak online.
In all honesty, I have to go to my resident in house alcoholic and ask for clarification on specifics - traditions, steps, things spoken in AA language etc.
A joyful bonus I never anticipated is that by me reading and understanding more *here* and taking my questions to him - we now are talking more than we ever have about things related to his personal sobriety (21 years in March - but I know, have always known, that on any given day he is only sober for that day. I recognize the accomplishment of adding up all those days but I also recognize that each day is its own day alone) One of the pitfalls of long-term sobriety that he has shared with me is that people - other people, *normal* people in his words - take it for granted that it is something he DID not something he DOES every day.
This particular blog has enabled me to better understand things he says or talks about - your words Mr SP I can relate to and that relating has opened other doors. I am grateful for that.
Another person included the forward to the 4th ed. When I asked my resident in house alcoholic about that interpretation he suggested that some people might say that it applies only to a specific online meeting.
Now in my interpretation from all I know and have learned, and like you I am confident someone will correct me if I am wrong, my understanding is that it only takes two people for a meeting to occur under any circumstances. If you write and I read then the two of us are having a meeting. An open meeting, but a meeting nonetheless. It only takes two, and I am happy I have this opportunity to attend. Thank you
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Posted by: Joy~ | February 25, 2011 at 11:25 AM
mr sponsorpants, your blog is brilliant. the person who has a problem with it should just go and surf somewhere else.
Posted by: bonzo | February 25, 2011 at 02:41 PM
My goodness, can we get our panties in a wad or what? I agree, this is service work. A basic lesson in an English class is that if you are writing it, the fact that it is your opinion is clear without needing to write "in my opinion".
I actually came here looking to quote you, always credited of course, about the difference between opinions and judgements from a few days ago.
It would have been an act of ego on Bill W.'s part to assume he knew all of the various media outlets that would someday come about and attempt to opine on whether one (like, oh, a book) is more valid than another.
Posted by: Claire | February 25, 2011 at 07:46 PM
I'm hoping that no one reading your blog today will think that the little slogan he wrote at the end "what you hear here...etc" is a part of the AA program. He probably says "meeting makers make it" too.
Posted by: Pam | February 25, 2011 at 08:28 PM
First of all, I think this is a wonderful blog, it _is_ a public service, and it has helped me not once but dozens of times -- not "just" with relation to my drinking but to other compulsive behaviours too. I have been sober since April 2002 and read a lot about sobriety and your posts are some of the freshest, most inspiring, and funniest around. (PLEASE don't take the site down, it would be terrible.)
I honestly don't see how the person who criticized you so sharply could really think this violates anonymity in any way. They need to sit down and take their _own_ inventory, since obviously something hit a nerve, but I don't think it actually has much of anything to do with you.
Something else to consider -- "anonymity" meant something else in the Good Old Days. I read in a book on early AA that people often passed around typed or mimeographed sheets with full names, addresses, and phone numbers. Contact _between_ alcoholics was seen as the key thing, not never revealing your identity to anyone. I'm just dropping that into the conversation to point out that while the Traditions have stayed the same, often ways of interpreting them have changed. The only _directive_ I personally see is 'we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio and films.' (Um, crosstalking here! Hah.)
But anyway, the real and important things are -- you do a wonderful job, you have helped me, you have helped dozens if not probably hundreds of other people, and I think your blog is a shining example of twelve stepping in the new, virtual world. Your considering so seriously and carefully whether you were really doing your best to help speaks for itself.
Posted by: Moira | February 26, 2011 at 05:49 AM
(Sheesh, that person didn't even get it right. I've always heard it -- "Who you see here, what you hear here, when you leave here, leave it here." Not that I would pick nits in defense of our dear MRSP or anything, oh no.)
Posted by: Moira | February 26, 2011 at 05:58 AM
Mr. SP;
I can only speak for myself, but your blog has indeed been a service (and continues to be) to this alcoholic.
I read everyday. Everyday I take something useful away from this blog...something that helps me better undersatnd and apply the principles of the program in all my affairs. It has helped me when my sponsor was unavailable due to chemotherapy, it has helped me when I am troubled with my own sponsees, it has helped me when I want to strangle people I work with. It has reminded me I am not alone when I am awake at 4am.
You have used your time and provided love and guidance. As a direct result of that, I am pretty sure that when I go out into the world, I am more in line to performing God's work instead of my own.
Thanks Mr.Sp. I feel as if we are friends and I treasure the hope and inspiration your words have given me.
Posted by: Julie. B | February 27, 2011 at 02:30 AM
Hello MSP,
After reading through all of the responses posted as of this morning (and I agree - you ROCK) I went back and read the poster's comment that started it all. I was struck by the overall tone of this “opinion” about you and your blog, which was typified by the last 2 words - sacred fellowship. I belong to a fellowship of men and women - human, flawed, resilient and amazing - but certainly not sacred. The spirituality of this program and my personal connection to my HP is defined in the Third Step - it is as I understand Him, not what someone else tells me. It is those who believe in and espouse this "sacred fellowship" stuff that has earned AA the totally unwarranted label of “cult”. What you do, MSP, is offer to the wide world what you alone have to offer. Fellow AA’s like me read you for your wisdom, your humor and your courage. Non AA’s can read you and see that we are not brainwashing people, just offering a simple program of guidelines to living a sober, happy life. So to quote your post of Feb. 16th “…an opinion is when I decide that what you're doing is not right for me (and that's fine); a judgment is when I decide what you're doing is not right for you.” We all know what opinions are like – everyone has one and we all think that yours stinks – but opinions thrive in a healthy fellowship. IN MY OPINION – judgments thrive in a “sacred fellowship” and can only hurt us in the end. After all, “our primary purpose is to stay sober and help other alcoholics to achieve sobriety", not maintain a “sacred fellowship” that is inflexible, condemning and exclusionary. Keep on blogging!
Posted by: Laurette | February 27, 2011 at 10:12 AM
A wonderful woman quoted this as she was finishing out her time here on earth before going full time (as her son calls it) 50 years in Alanon, a husband 35 year.
She said, if you can say thank you for each opportunity given to see the love and grace of God in those around you and in your own walk because they were there, it's enough.
So,
Thank you!
Posted by: Jessie R. | February 28, 2011 at 05:03 AM
A wrench for every nut - Notes from the wrench factory.
I don’t know how I or anyone survives to find AA. I don’t know how I survived the crazy stuff I find in the rooms offered to replace alcohol. Little by slow. I had to learn to mistrust fast. Alcohol is fast. Zero to god in 12 ounces. I don’t think I can speed up my recovery. I know how to slow it down (glug glug.) It is a good day not to drink and die. Others were seemingly much crazier outside cases and wreaked more obviously. I am surprised now by one again a friend ensnared. I met him at death’s door and in AA he zip zapped recovered again bringing a lovely awareness and romantic appreciation of all big and small life to me. Then, while visiting new company in a new place a new idea – All exciting and promising regaining ground winning back receiving the appreciation of strangers his talents nourished the innocent consideration of alcohol, a drink. Moment. Nothing new to us. To him there is confusion as he finds this hidden power greater than himself depositing him daily dealing its blows. Get up and go to meeting- maybe today it will go. Mr. SP might have been able to bring me back and is carrying plenty now. Pretty sure this is the case. Good luck MRSP!!! 8-) We are enjoying this, too!
“Sit, be still, and listen,
because you’re drunk
and we’re at
the edge of the roof.” RUMI
Posted by: Jack A | March 01, 2011 at 01:12 AM
AA has a big problem in trying to suppress people's individuality, with empowering them to look within for strength, and capitalizing on people's vulnerabilities. I was in for sixteen years and so very glad I'm out. Contrary to the viewpoint on leaving the program, I'm sober, stable, and happy. j
Posted by: Jenne' R. Andrews | March 03, 2011 at 01:57 PM
Is says somewhere that alcohol(or alcoholism in my opinion) is "cunning baffling powerful..." There is a carnival game called "Smack a Mole" that, for me, is an apt definition of how the alcoholic part of my brain works. I identify a behavior that is causing unmanageability in my life, and I address it via the program(read Hit it With A 12 step Hammer) and invariably another behavior pops up that helps divert me from the present. A part of my brain is trying very actively to kill me, and telling me that I am OK now, and that AA is the problem is one of the most frequent ways it does it. My partner had 25 years of sobriety, drank(expressed his individuality) and is now trying really hard to recapture what he lost. He too thought that AA quit fitting him. The gift for me is that I have learned what a great program Al Anon is in the last 4 years that he has been trying to get back to the program.
I heard an old timer say very early on in my sobriety "Don't let the things that AA gives you take you away from AA" and have tried to remember that saying as my life fills up. I developed the ability to be an individual when I got sober, so my opinion is definately the opposite of J, for what its worth. Was J reading the posts here to gather ammunition for the argument? Strange that someone who is so glad they are out is reading a bunch of blog comments on a sober site. Cunning, Baffling, Powerful...
As far as this site and the 12 Tradition goes, I see zero conflict, which therefore means that there isn't any...LOL
Posted by: Curt W | March 04, 2011 at 05:53 AM
I have an alcoholic wife. I do attend Al-Anon, but coming to your blog has been refreshing to read your anectodal comments on alcoholism. This is one ofthefirstweb pages I read that helped me fully understand what we were up against. Please continue doing this, it does assist everyone involved to clean up their side of the street.
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