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February 16, 2011


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I have also used (for me) this definition ...
If I keep it to myself, it's my opinion.
If I verbalize it to others, it's being judgemental.

Jeri  Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ

I have been and still am confused by this opinion business. Especially when Tradition 10 states:
“It could almost be said that we were born with it, for, as one oldtimer recently declared, Practically never have I heard a heated religious, political, or reform argument among
A.A. members. ‘So long as we don't argue these matters privately, it's a cinch we never shall publicly.’ ”


When a song would come on the radio, my ex would sometimes state, "This song is so great. These musicians are so good!" If I disagreed, it would end up in some argument. (Yes, there's a reason he's an ex.) I tried to emphasize that this was his opinion and that I had another opinion and neither was right or wrong, they were just preferences. His "opinion" was then that I was just dumb for not liking the song!

Judgement continues to be a problem for me. BUT, I have noticed that I am more judgemental when I feel crummy about myself. That makes it clear to me that it is my responsibility to take care of my self esteem. I have often replaced the first line of the Serenity Prayer with "God grant me the serenity to accept the PEOPLE I cannot change...".

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