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September 07, 2010


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All of that is my understanding. Too.


The best definition I have heard..simple and framed within the Traditions..thank you.



Good points. Most of the groups have their definition of cross talk.


I appreciate this post because I do think this can be confusing. However, I do think also that crosstalk of almost any kind can be damaging to the overly sensitive alcoholics who sit in the chairs as new or relatively new people. Recently, I shared in a meeting, on topic, but with a little personal spin on it. Later, several sharers later, a person brought up my particular spin (without specifically addressing me) and talked about how that was "wrong." Wow. I went into a shame attack. And it took me a while to muster the courage to speak again in that meeting. And to realize that that was that particular person's view of it and that may or may not have validity. And that I had a right to my own opinion and experience. So, all of this is to say that I am sure that person who "corrected" me had no intention of hurting me or sending me off into a shame attack for "being wrong AGAIN" but nevertheless that is what happened. If he had something to say about what I shared, it would have been more appropriate to find me after the meeting and tell me to my face where I could have had him clarify, perhaps. So, I feel fairly strongly about cross talk and I think it is very dangerous for the newly sober person we are trying to help.

The Corner Hugger

A couple more versions of crosstalk:

1) Someone starts sharing, and someone else keeps interjecting their comments/jabs/advice.

2) As someone is sharing, there is another (or several) conversation going on across the room, just loud enough to distract.

Someone I know won't hesitate to say, "Hold it hold it! I'm sorry, but I can only concentrate on one person at a time, and I don't want to miss anything that might be important. Thanks for waiting your turn."

He's gotten cussed out a time or two, but it seems to work (judging by the relief on the faces of those who stay behind as the offending parties usually storm out of the room with a resentment)...


Sobriety. What a kick in the pants.

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