And sometimes trying to help is trying to control.
(But I believe that if you're worried that while trying to do the former you might actually be doing the latter then, by the very fact that you're worried about it, you're probably actually doing the former and probably not doing the latter. Probably).
(And when I buy into that belief, starring in the movie-in-my-mind in some sort of Rebel/Martyr Epic, I indulge my ego to such a degree that it leaves the door wiiiide open for my alcoholism.)