It was going to AA meetings that eventually helped me hear my own music.
Yes, my phrasing is maybe a little saccharine, and certainly the quote is quite famous,
but for all that it is still my truth.
My alcoholism, fueled by (or fueling? Potato potahto) my fear and ego, kept me perpetually self-involved and desperately trying to be what I thought I was "supposed" to be -- not in the aspirational sense; I wasn't reaching for goals. In the sense that I was deeply convinced I was a Wrong Thing and needed to make sure nobody found me out.
The experience of hearing people share in meetings, the discussion of the AA literature, the stunning example of people using AA's tools and staying sober through terrible difficulties, these things literally showed me how to become comfortable in my own skin. To become my authentic self.
I guess you could say AA meetings helped me evolve from trying to "not-be" and allowed me to try to just "be."
There may well be many places on earth in which you can find that kind of help. I do not know.
But my experience is that I found them in AA meetings.
And I still find them today.
Which is why I still need them, and I still go.