"You seem really attached to your suffering."
It's easy to let our pain become our identity.
Of course it informs us.
Of course it shapes some elements of our personality.
Of course it installs some programming in our "mental software."
But ultimately, through writing, sharing and listening, I perceive that pain is either part of a growth process or a choice, but the suffering generally comes from my resistance and it does not have to define me.
I have choices today.