So, given that context, let me ask:
What do you have to say for yourself?
Must you dominate because you feel insignificant? Do you need to control because you feel unsafe? Aggressive because you feel weak?
People are complex, it's true, and it may seem reductive to draw such neat little yin-yangs about the what and the why of how we behave towards one another, but for me, seeing these things in myself was the beginning of getting free of what was running me, eventually shining a light on how I ceded my power to absolutely anyone who pushed certain buttons.
But also -- perhaps more importantly -- it was the beginning of true compassion for the difficult people I encountered, as I saw that however they lashed out it was not about me, it really was about them.