Drinking, my life had gotten so small that all I knew how to say was "no." For me, contrary action was simply starting to say "yes" -- to anything.
As I learned from my friends in Al-anon, "No." is a complete sentence.
I used to think that being powerless over alcohol only meant that you couldn't say "no" to it. I learned (the bloody hard way) that it also meant saying "No" but then changing it to a "yes" for almost no good reason at all.