My fear can be as quick as a flash of heat lightning -- suddenly just there, filling the sky -- reacting to a threat, regardless of whether it is real or imagined.
And so, so often, it is imagined.
Along those lines, lately it's important for me to remember that a question is not a criticism, nor is it an accusation. It is a question.
And even if it is a bit of a criticism or accusation, it still serves me best to respond solely as if it is nothing more than a question.
It takes practice.