If you're afraid to say "no" then your "yes" means nothing.
"People pleasing" does not come from a desire to be nice.
It comes from fear.
Alcoholism thrives on fear.
Thus, while it appears to be fairly harmless as character defects go, while it seems a little "lite" when it comes to light in the fourth column of an inventory, it is actually very serious business. Alcoholics who are chronic "people pleasers" are moving through life in a constant low-grade state of social anxiety -- of fear -- which both stunts recovery and provides fertile ground for alcoholism to flourish.
Oh. How cruel.
Posted by: Dave | October 15, 2009 at 03:40 AM
Yup,
"Worry is a mild form of athiesm"
I read that somewhere before in the last week or so! :)
SHEESH... Now to actually work the steps on that worry rather than sit on the first step and wallow!
Posted by: Jessie R | October 15, 2009 at 06:22 AM