Surrender is not acceptance.
Acceptance is not agreement.
Powerless is not helpless.
Humility is not humiliation.
Selfish is not self-seeking.
Willingness is not "want to."
Self esteem is not ego.
Guilt is not shame.
Rigorous (honesty) is not brutal (honesty).
Disciplined is not rigid.
Taking responsibility is not assigning blame.
Primary (as in primary purpose) is not solitary (as in "only" purpose).
Dry is not sober.
When I was new to Alcoholics Anonymous I thought I understood what each of the words and ideas above meant -- certainly I could use them correctly in a sentence. I knew -- or rather, I thought I knew -- what you meant when you shared about them or I read them in the book "Alcoholics Anonymous" (AA's Big Book). But what they really, specifically meant, and (more importantly) how they differed from what I assumed they meant, took me, in some cases, a long time to sort out.
If you're new to AA, save yourself some pain, misunderstanding and frustration. Get a damn dictionary.
If you're not so new to AA, and you sponsor people, consider that how clearly you understand some of those words and ideas may have a direct impact on your ability to be helpful to people who struggle with sobriety so ... get a damn dictionary.